Every couple of months I have lunch with an old high school teacher of mine. We’ve been doing it for the last 12 years. He’s a gregarious character for sure, short tempered, and a bit ridiculous.
He is also brutally honest in a way that can sometimes catch me off guard.
For example, the last time we got together he said this to me:
I don’t read your blog you know, because, I don’t care.
I immediately laughed because, well… because it was funny. I also knew he didn’t mean it as an insult.
What he was really saying was not that he didn’t care about me. Quite the contrary, what he was saying was that he cares about me, and what I’m doing with my life, and wants me to share those things with him.
What he doesn’t care about is the minutia I engage in. The video blogs, the tweets, and whatever attempted artistic photos I’ve been posting.
As a business owner and artist, I understand how easy it is to get frustrated when your friends or loved ones don’t follow every single thing you do online.
But if you really take a moment to think about that idea, it’s absolutely ridiculous to think that everybody would keep up to date on what everybody else is doing all the time. It’s absurd. The same thing goes for being an entrepreneur. We can so easily fall into the trap of thinking that every single thing we do is the bees knees and is going to revolutionize an industry.
There are so many missed opportunities in our daily lives because we are so caught up in what we are doing, and the tremendous importance of, that we completely disregard or don’t even recognize chances to connect with others, to support them, and to create something new where nothing existed before.
We are meaning-seeking individuals. We seek validation from that what we share online, and we seek to be valued by cataloguing our best experiences. We want people to know we are important by the name on our business card, or for the fact that we’ve gone out on our own and don’t use business cards anymore.
In the end, if we attach a higher value to the public perception of the business we started rather than our own interests, we’ve not only become misguided, but also lost.
What you do in life is important if it’s important to you. And while many things require the love and support of others to be thrive and grow, others’ awareness of or lack thereof, should never determine how you feel about them or the thing you do.